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What We Told Our Kids About Santa

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What we tell our kids about Santa

'Tis the season . . . for parents to decide if they will tell the truth about Santa.

When it comes to cultural issues like Santa, Christians have three options: (1) we can reject it, (2) we can receive it, or (3) we can redeem it.

Since Santa is so pervasive in our culture, it is nearly impossible to simply reject Santa as part of our annual cultural landscape. Still, as parents we don't feel we can simply receive the entire story of Santa because there is a lot of myth built on top of a true story.

Redeeming Santa

So, as the parents of two children, Scott and I have taken the third position to redeem Santa. We tell our kids that he was a real person who did live a long time ago. We also explain how people dress up as Santa and pretend to be him for fun, kind of like how young children like to dress up as pirates, princesses, superheroes, and a host of other people, real and imaginary. We explain how, in addition to the actual story of Santa, a lot of other stories have been added (e.g., flying reindeer, living in the North Pole, delivering presents to every child in one night) so that Santa is a combination of true and make-believe stories.

We do not, however, demonize Santa. Dressing up, having fun, and using the imagination God gave can be an act of holy worship and is something that, frankly, a lot of adults need to learn from children.

What we are concerned about, though, is lying to our children. We teach them that they can always trust us because we will tell them the truth and not lie to them. Conversely, we ask that they be honest with us and never lie. Since we also teach our children that Jesus is a real person who did perform real miracles, our fear is that if we teach them fanciful, make-believe stories as truth, it could erode confidence in our truthfulness where it really matters. So, we distinguish between lies, secrets, surprises, and pretend for our kids. We ask them not to tell lies or keep secrets, but do teach them that some surprises (like gift-giving) and pretending (like dressing up) can be fun and should be encouraged. We tell them the truth and encourage them to have fun watching Christmas shows on television and even sitting on Santa's lap for a holiday photo if they so desire. To date, neither of our children have wanted to sit on his lap. For parents of younger children wanting them to learn the real story of Santa Claus theVeggie Tales movie Saint Nicholas is a good choice. This year, my son saw Little Drummer Boy Veggie Tales style also.

The Truth about Santa Claus

The larger-than-life myths surrounding Santa Claus actually emanate from the very real person of Saint Nicholas. It is difficult to know the exact details of his life with certainty, as the ancient records are sparse, but the various pieces can be put together as a mosaic of his life.

A Gift-Giver

Nicholas was born in the third century in Patara, a village in what is now Turkey. He was born into an affluent family, but his parents died tragically when he was quite young. His parents had raised him to be a devout Christian, which led him to spend his great inheritance on helping the poor, especially children. He was known to frequently give gifts to children, sometimes even hanging socks filled with treats and presents.

Perhaps his most famous act of kindness was helping three sisters. Because their family was too poor to pay for their wedding dowry, three young Christian women were facing a life of prostitution until Nicholas paid their dowry, thereby saving them from a horrible life of sexual slavery.

A Bishop and Saint

Nicholas grew to be a well-loved Christian leader and was eventually voted the Bishop of Myra, a port city that the apostle Paul had previously visited (Acts 27:5-6). Nicholas reportedly also traveled to the legendary Council of Nicaea, where he helped defend the deity of Jesus Christ in A.D. 325.

Following his death on December 6, 343, he was canonized as a saint. The anniversary of his death became the St. Nicholas holiday when gifts were given in his memory. He remained a very popular saint among Catholic and Orthodox Christians, with some two thousand churches named after him. The holiday in his honor eventually merged with Christmas, since they were celebrated within weeks of one another.

Misnomer

During the Reformation, however, Nicholas fell out of favor with Protestants, who did not approve of canonizing certain people as saints and venerating them with holidays. His holiday was not celebrated in any Protestant country except Holland, where his legend as Sinterklass lived on. In Germany, Martin Luther replaced him with the Christ child as the object of holiday celebration, or, in German, Christkindl. Over time, the celebration of the Christ child was simply pronounced Kris Kringle and oddly became just another name for Santa Claus.

Folklore

The legends about Santa Claus are most likely a compilation of other folklore. For example, there was a myth in Nicholas' day that a demon was entering people's homes to terrorize children and that Nicholas cast it out of a home. This myth may explain why it was eventually believed that he came down people's chimneys.

Also, there was a Siberian myth (near the North Pole) that a holy man, or shaman, entered people's homes through their chimneys to leave them mushrooms as gifts. According to the legend, he would hang them in front of the fire to dry. Reindeer would reportedly eat them and become intoxicated. This may have started the myth that the reindeer could fly, as it was believed that the shaman could also fly. This myth may have merged with the Santa Claus myth, and if so, explains him traveling from the North Pole to slide down chimneys and leave presents on fireplace mantles before flying away with reindeer.

These stories of Santa Claus were first brought to America by Dutch immigrants. In the early twentieth century, stores began having Santa Claus present for children during the Christmas season. Children also began sending letters to the North Pole as the legends surrounding an otherwise simple Christian man grew.

In sum, Saint Nick was a wonderful man who loved and served Jesus faithfully. So, we gladly include him in our Christmas traditions to remind us of what it looks like for someone to live a life of devotion to Jesus as God. Our kids thank us for being both honest and fun, which we think is what Jesus wants.

Image by Patrick Mahoney

http://theresurgence.com/2010/12/14/what-we-tell-our-kids-about-santa

Good Morning December!

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Well, I'm back. Not that I really went anywhere, I just haven't been here on my blog in a while. I promised to return in December and I made it into the first half by just a hair! I have most of my Christmas shopping done, most of the gifts are even wrapped (Thanks to no good places left to hide them!) and I've also managed to make some gifts for the teachers, helpers and other miscellaneous people that we give small gifts to this time of year. It's a low budget year for us, but at least I managed to get Christmas cards made. Still waiting on delivery of said cards, hopefully they will get out before Christmas! 

Anyway, there are so many things I've been thinking about for the last few weeks; what to post, how to post it, what to say about it, so on and so forth. I don't really have any new super cool ideas, but I have a few prompts that I'm going to shoot out. 

Look for the following posts in coming weeks;

  • New products at Courtlynn.com !! (I'm so excited about this!)
  • Santa; what we tell our kids about him.
  • Biblical Christmas traditions; Eliminating the pagan roots.
  • Weekly menu plans (as usual.)
  • New Years Resolutions; Why are they so hard to stick to?

I'm sure I'll have a few more, I'm just not sure if they will make it out before Christmas. There are quite a few things going on between then and now! I pray you have a wonderful Christmas season remembering the reason why we celebrate this wonderful time of year. 

In Christ,


Fantastic Friday

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To my dear readers!

I'm very excited for the holidays; Very excited to spend time with family and friends. As my regular readers know, I am not totally regular on posting things. Sometimes I'll post all week long, and sometimes only once in a week. (And still yet, sadly only once a month…) With the holiday coming up next week, I will be out of town. As it is just myself who is the contributing writer on this blog, I will be otherwise occupied playing with my children, cooking with my mother, enjoying a glass of wine with family and getting totally stuffed to the gills on Thursday. So I don't have a menu planned, I don't have a schedule planned, and I certainly don't have any posts planned for next week. It's quite a fantastic Friday for me in rainy northern California today. My son is out of school for 9 days and we plan on enjoying every minute of it. I'll be doing a craft fair the weekend after we come home from our vacation and so that will keep me quite busy in preparation during the last week of November. So this is my last post for the month of November, 

Remember:

Be thankful for what you have been blessed with, do not want what is not yours, and love those who love you the most with an unending and unselfish love, so that you can leave a legacy of love for those that would follow in your footsteps. 

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Now the sappy-ness is over. I hope you all have a great time next week. Look for me in December!!

Fantastic Friday

Like the end of anything, Fridays are anticipated because they are the end of the work week for most people, and the beginning of the weekend. Can we say 5 o'clock anyone? I feel like my son has reached the end of his "little kid" life as he's now in kindergarten, and is growing up way to fast for me. Just this evening we were stalling for bed time finishing our cookies for dessert and we clicked through the folders of pictures on our PS3. Caleb was enthralled that I started with pictures of him as a baby. Adelynn kept asking when we were going to see pictures of her, so I obliged and we ended up burning through 20 minutes real quick! As I bathed them and get them in bed, I thought of something a friend told me today as she was so kindly complimenting me on some of the things I've written here about the kids. She told me I should make sure to write a lot more down and then print them out for the kids' baby books, etc. She and her twin sister had been going through their mom's photo albums and wished she had written more down about them as kids. Of course she was happy that she had pictures, but the memories begin to fade without details. In any case, here is a simple 20 things about my kids that I wanted to write down before they are older and I've forgotten. It also made me smile to write these precious moments down, because I am still in the thick of tantrums, bad attitudes, potty training, wet beds, rejected dinners, etc. So seeing all the sweet things about my kids written down brings peace in the midst of parenting trials. I thank God for my kids every day even as I struggle to view and treat them as blessings instead of burdens.

The Things I’ll forget if I don’t write them down.

  1. Adelynn is only two and can speak in full sentences and have a completely coherent phone conversation.
  2. Caleb is just hitting that awkward stage, and I think it’s simply adorable.
  3. My children will entertain each other outside for an entire hour with only minimal disagreements…Which usually fizzles into laughter.
  4. If I give Caleb a Popsicle stick (or five) he will create something with it.
  5. If I give Adelynn a Popsicle stick, she will put it in her pocket to save for later.
  6. Adelynn loves all things mammal…Especially dogs, cats and horses.
  7. Caleb has no interest in animals other than our own cat and Grammies chickens.
  8. My daughter is a lover of water.
  9. Caleb acts like he’s going to die if the only thing he can drink is water.
  10. Adelynn would much rather sit on my lap and listen to me talk to other grown ups than play with kids her own age.
  11. Caleb will enter a new home as comfortably as if it were his own, and play with any child around him who will join him. Be it a one year old or a ten year old.
  12. Caleb will find words all around him and try to read them. (I’m hoping he can’t see billboards well enough yet…)
  13. Adelynn MUST get into the car herself, put her straps on, click every part and tighten it herself. And if you do any part of it without her help, you must undo it so that she can re-do it.
  14. Adelynn has the scream of a banshee…
  15. Caleb will yell with laughter for no reason. And then tell me he was “Dreaming about something funny”
  16. When you tell the kids to say goodnight to each other, Caleb will run up to Adelynn pick her up, hug and kiss her and then drop her. –She laughs.
  17. Caleb has the MOST hilarious run…When he runs, his head and shoulders DO NOT MOVE…He’s like a little wind up toy where you see only the running parts on the ground move. Watch him sometime; you’ll see what I mean.
  18. Adelynn doesn’t prefer to run, unless it’s in a parking lot. Seriously.
  19. Both my kids love to be tickled, wrestled, and otherwise rough housed. And they love kisses and hugs, but Caleb only at appropriate times.
  20. My kids love it that I make homemade crackers, yogurt, bread and smoothies. I think they would live on those four things alone if I let them. Caleb would add broccoli to that list, and Adelynn would add meat.

Thankful Thursday; Remembering the “Terrible Twos” in 20 Ways

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So A-girl is three months into the terrible twos although they started a long time ago. In an effort to remain sane while traveling through this season of life with her, I feel compelled to write down all the things she does and says that will make me miss her at this age, despite the tantrums, manipulating, and dramatics that accompany my two year old daughter. 

 

20 ways you will make me smile (forever)

1. Your beautiful blue eyes.

2. How everyone says you have your mama's curls. (I don't trust them to last, so I'm enjoying them now!)

3. The way your eyes get HUGE when we are really close and talking about something "So Cool"

4. How you potty trained yourself because you wanted to be a big girl. I really hope you grow out of wanting to be a big girl…You'll grow up way to fast like mama did.

5. It makes my laugh and smile to see you traipsing around the house in nothing but your pink panties and high heeled princess shoes.

6. It makes me smile to remember how well you can speak at this age, but how you never say the "s" at the beginning of a word. Spaceship becomes "Paceship" and spaghetti is "Paghetti" 

7. The way you light up whenever daddy comes home.

8. How eager you are to help me in the kitchen dumping measuring spoons and watching my ever-constant mixer go 'round and 'round.

9. Your chubby little buns…Oh, I could just squeeze all day!

10. It makes me smile that you both have similar white lovey blankets; The name of your white blanket is "Neenee". Brother's white favorite blanket was "Boo" (And I have no idea where either name came from.)

11. It makes me smile to listen to how sweet you are to your brother even when he isn't nice to you.

12. You know how to use your manners. It does a mama's heart good to hear that.

13. Whenever you are sad, you want to sit on my lap and snuggle for as long as I can sit. (Which isn't long these days)

14. That you love to go shopping with me, even when it's to Walmart and I haven't promised you a toy. (Because I don't need to, and most times I don't even need  a snack for you either)

15. It makes me smile to hear you call yourself a princess. Even though it brings frantic thoughts of drama and pinkness beyond my comprehension.

16. That when you fall asleep in my arms you still do your little baby whimper-smile with your sweet little lips. 

17. It makes me smile that you are always willing to sit and read. You love books.

18. I think it's pretty cool that you love to count, sing songs pretty well and are well on your way to knowing the whole alphabet.

19. It makes me smile when you do something that your brother asks you to do without questioning him, because you trust him completely. (May be dangerous some day…)

20. It makes me smile knowing that God gave you to me for this sweet time and I get the privilege of watching you grow and teaching you all the wonders of Christ so that you too may one day know and love Him as much as I do.

I love my babies!

 

Fall Bucket List (A Part of Thankful Thursdays)

Fall is my favorite season of all of them. The smell on the air, the falling leaves, the chilly mornings and still warm afternoons. There are quite a few fun things to do in Northern California in the autumn. Here is this years bucket list before the cold gets too cold!

 

 

 

Wordless Wednesday

It's always sweet when big brother will let his little sister give him a sweet peck on the cheek. Happy Wednesday!

 

                             

Thankful Thursday

Top 5 Reasons to be Thankful this Week

1. Family; We are healthy, happy and growing together in love.

2. Faith; God has been so faithful to us, even when we mess up and fail miserably. I'm so thankful that Christians aren't perfect, just perfectly forgiven! It means I am human but that God loves me despite me!

3. Friends; Though friends move away, we are able to remain friends because of modern technology and fast cars and freeways. (I know, silly!) Those friends that remain are even more precious now!

4. Employment; So many people are hurting right now, and while we struggle to pay off debt and feed our family, we are employed and so thankful that from our little we can still give much.

5. Fun; We live in an area where there is so much to do. We have beautiful mountains that will soon b e covered in snow, we have the pacific ocean where yesterday it was a record day @ 82 degrees! There are lakes, trails, valleys and rivers. God's majesty is displayed all around us. Sometimes we don't notice, but I've definitely been noticing since autumn is my absolutely favorite time of year. Take a look around you today and think about all the things you have to be thankful for. Even in the midst of the chaos of this world; It will change your attitude for sure!


Monday Mission

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Since I spend much of my Sunday evening’s developing my weekly menu, I thought maybe I should add something else for those of you who either
a) don’t care what we are eating or
b) aren’t interested because you don’t cook. So…On that note, we are going to call it “MONDAY MISSION”
 
It can be anything from a random act of kindness to a challenge to create something. Obviously, the easy ones like doing something nice for someone is not going to take all week, but making something might take you all month! Either way, please post a comment at the bottom if you do choose to join me in my Monday Missions. I need some encouragement and inspiration from people too you know!! Haha, love you all!
 

Monday Mission: Should you choose to accept it, will be to do one random act of kindness today.  See? I told you we’d start out easy.

Four God Filled Moments Every Day

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As the man goes, so goes the marriage. As the marriage goes, so goes the family. As the family goes, so goes the church. As the church goes, so goes the nation.” From Visionary Parenting by Dr. Rob Rienow

I’ve heard something similar to this before, but apparently this time it actually caught my hearts attention. Considering the state of our country these days, and the fact that my children are growing up way to fast, maybe I was in the right frame of mind to really let this phrase set into my mind. I’m reading this book because I know there is more we can do at home to raise our children better and it comes highly recommended. I’m only a few chapters in, but most times for me those are the best pages as the foundation for the whole book is set. I’d like to share a little of the book with you in my own words reflecting the foundations of biblical parenting that the author pulls directly from scripture.

Four God Filled Moments (Among many others of course!)

The author points out a few verses from Deuteronomy 6 starting with 5-7
Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your mind and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them upon your children .” Emphasis mine.
He continues with the next verses;
“Talk about them (The inspired words of God) when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”
Emphasis is the authors for context.
I’m going to paraphrase the point of quoting these verses as Dr. Rienow went into quite a bit of detail. The point is the same. Do you want to be a better parent? You must impart the wisdom and knowledge on your children’s hearts at home…Not at Sunday School from some other well intentioned parent, not at the once yearly Vacation Bible School, nor any other Bible camp. Don’t get me wrong, those places are great, but they only add-to the foundational wisdom from scriptures that your child is getting at home. God can use any situation for His good, I’m not trying to limit God at all, I’m trying to point out the faulty thinking that many parents have fallen prey to. That other people can teach their child about Jesus and his life saving offer of salvation. It must start at home! So back to the “Four God Filled Moments.”

When you sit at home

What, you don’t sit at home? Are you always moving from one thing to another like I am? First it’s waking up and prepping for the day the tings that I didn’t get to last night, then kids up, breakfast served, getting dressed, and out the door to whatever activity or errands we have. Then home for naps or quiet (alone) time, get dinner started, battle with kids over eating dinner, (insert activity here) and then before we know it the day is over, and kids are in bed. When did you sit with them once, let along four times? I may have found time for some book reading before lunch, or before naptime, but I’m not sure where in my busy schedule of being a stay at home mom I allowed for imparting words of wisdom…I’ve allowed my schedule to cause me to sin. If I can’t allow God into my schedule I am directly disobeying Him. I’m not going to dive into how, or when, or what to put into “family worship time” as it’s usually called. Just know that you should have time as an entire family to spend time “sitting at home” in God’s word imparting words of wisdom on your children’s hearts. And yes, fathers should be leading this. There are plenty of wonderful books for men on family leadership. It starts in the home friends!

When You Walk Along the Road

Of course back in bible times the mode of transportation was walking; Or riding on an animal if you were wealthy to afford an animal. So a lot of time was spent walking together, and God said that this was a perfect time fore discussing eternal things together. Sometimes I feel like we spend half our day in the car! Make it a point to turn off the radio and spend some time being spiritually focused. Maybe it’s a short drive…Spend it in prayer for safety and reflection on the mornings events; good or bad. Dr. Rienow is a down to earth kind of author and admits to forgetting this occasionally. I’m going to quote what he said about this small tidbit of effective time.

“One morning my family was driving me to work. We were one minute away when I realized we had forgotten to have our “Car talk.” So I quickly said ‘kids, here is one of daddy’s favorite verses from the Bible; Philippians 2:5: Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus. What attitude did Jesus have? They replied; ‘A good one?’ I said ‘Yes, a good one, a joyful one of course too. He was patient. So as we go through our day, let’s remember that our attitudes should be the same as Jesus. I love you, have a good day’
Later that same day Dr. Rienow replays the afternoon pick up when his wife and he got into an argument on the way to someone’s house for dinner. Then from the back seat, their seven year old chided them crying out about remembering to have Jesus’ attitude. He says be careful, because as you invest in your child’s faith and character it may just rub off on you too! So as short or as long as your car ride, spend it discussing the life and work of Jesus. Even if it’s just a short discussion of a song’s meaning from a Christian radio station. (Can you tell this is me? My son is ALWAYS asking me what the singer is talking about. It opens up huge discussions with us.) I confess that this is one of the few times we talk about spiritual things, and I do absolutely love the talks!

When You Rise Up

In the morning there should be some small moments set aside for more teaching. There was one of those chain e-mails going around years ago that was a prayer giving God thanks for having not yelled, not been angry, not hit or kicked or punched (I’m totally paraphrasing here) basically not sinned. Then the author of that silly little prayer continued to say “as I get out of bed…” !! The punch line is of course that his day hadn’t even started, so of course he hadn’t any time to do any of these things. But in all seriousness, this story sets a good principal of when you rise up to give it to the Lord. I have a wall quote in our bedroom to remind me to always start my day with a smile. While it falls far short of how I really should start my morning, it helps me to remember why I smile every morning. I remember God’s blessings, and it makes me smile. This time is such a great potential for teaching children. Their minds are fresh, they are ready to face the day. Especially if everyone rolled off the wrong side of the bed; Redirecting them to Jesus will will help to put them on the right track for their day!

When you Lie Down

Have you ever noticed that some of your best conversations are with your children as you prepare for bed? I sure have. God tells us directly that this is “an excellent time for deepening our heart connection with our children.” Dr. Rienow I couldn’t agree more with this. Don’t’ rush it because it’s 15 minutes past bedtime or you have something waiting for you downstairs. Ask your children if there is anything they want to talk about. You never know what windows of opportunity God will open. Even spending this time next to your sons or daughters just praying out loud with them, giving thanks for the events of the day, etc will be rewarded. Let them participate even if they are two years old! It always warms my heart to see my two year old bow her head and peek up to see me with my eyes (open) closed praying and then hear her to say “amen” My almost 5 year old son’s sweet prayers are always encouraging and often leave me laughing on the inside. He gives thanks for the funniest things!
Four times (at least) during the day God commands us to impart His wisdom on our children’s hearts. This may seem overwhelming for some of you while some of you may already be heading this direction taking it one day at a time. Remember that there is nothing that God has not prepared for you to do that you can’t do with His help. Did that come out the way I intended? What I mean is that God gave us these precious young lives for a purpose. This is our mission field as parents. Remember the quote at the beginning of my post? As the man goes…so goes his family. Start with yourself; spend some time with God asking Him to guide you down this path. Have an eternal perspective and vision for your family that promises a legacy of love in Christ Jesus. Get with your spouse and make it a family mission.

Cheers~