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Our Greatest Role as Moms
Stumbled on this today…It's from another blog, but I must repost.
Our Greatest Role As Moms Is To Be Like Christ
Christ spent much time in prayer, in relationship with others, in service to the less fortunate, and even alone.
He was concerned with heart matters over physical matters.
He gave of Himself without complaint.
He forgave freely.
He instructed in what is good and against sin.
He meditated on God’s word.
He told lots of stories.
He recharged Himself spiritually and physically.
And, most importantly, while we were still sinners, Christ died for us! He lavished GRACE on a sinful, dying world.
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“We must be the parents who become the flesh of Christ to our children!”
In order to do that we need to know Him, LOVE Him, spend time with Him… LOTS of time with Him!
“You must be a gardener of your own soul, and then a gardener of your children’s soul.” “You can’t pass on what you’re not living.”
“The Proverbs 31 woman ‘clothed herself’ with strength and dignity… She had to ‘put’ it on. It’s a choice to be made.”
“Godly, strong, overcoming women who have a testimony don’t happen by accident.”
“You (and your children) are being groomed to become like Christ. Many times that’s done through difficulty.”
“He desires not for you to be happy and shallow, but to be Holy.”
“Our children learn how to believe & persevere by watching us. How do we handle trouble/discouragement?”
Our children will be prepared for trials in life by seeing how we trust and lean on God in our sadness.
“Your spirit is an example to others – how you walk with God is a model for your children to follow.”
We can’t give our children what we don’t have. If we want them to know and love God. We need to know and love God.
“Be a learner. Be curious about all that God has made (surround yourself with others who do the same).”
“God isn’t calling you to be exhausted, He’s calling you to rest.”
“Light a candle, put on music, get a real tea cup, make a pot of tea, invite someone to sit w/ you… & talk! Make some quiet time.” (Jesus went away to be alone and spent intimate time with friends.)
“Everyone needs a place of quiet that is nurturing to your spirit, enriching your soul. What nurtures your heart & brings you closer to God?“
“If your soul isn’t rich, how can you give richness to your child? Enrich YOUR soul!”(see Sally’s post on this here)
“Your children are watching everything you are doing!” “What are you doing in front of your children? What are you speaking in front of your children? Is it pleasing to God?”
“The spirit of a woman to speak light into darkness can change a whole family’s history.”
“God isn’t asking you to do more, he’s asking you to rest in him/trust him. The more you rest in him the more you become like him.”
“God doesn’t want you to be perfect. He wants you to love Him and make Him known to your children.”
“God doesn’t ask for perfection, He asks for a heart for Him!”
“Are you (am I) a picture of the incarnate Jesus to your husband, your children, your friends?”
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Until next Tea Time (next Tuesday) when we talk about the reason behind all of this (the arrows we are shooting into the future generations),
May you be filled to overflowing with God’s love and may your children be drawn to the light of Christ in you!
And remember…
God has a plan and purpose for each one of our children, and He has placed YOU as the parent of your children!
Check out more GREAT insights from the Mom Heart Conference from some of my blogging friends:
You Are Building Your Legacy Today
What Are Your Questions? Do you worry that you’ve blown it?
God Is At Work In Your Child’s Life(last week’s Tea Time post here at SomeGirl’s Website)
Feel free to pass this along to your friends! ♥ Love, Michelle (aka SomeGirl)
Disclaimer: Most of what I share in this and future Tea Times came directly (or was gleaned) from theMom Heart Conference hosted by Sally Clarkson. Where I quote directly from her or another speaker I will use quotation marks. In my haste to write down the great nuggets of truth shared with us I failed to write who said what, so my quotes will not be referenced. In other words, if you see something in quotes it was said by someone wise at the conference. 
post from the URL: http://somegirlswebsite.com/showing-love/2011/03/greatest-role-moms/
Raising Obedient Children; Our 6 Convictions
Here are a few ways that we are trying to raise obedient children:
1. We are confident in our God-given parental authority.
God has set parents in place as the authority figures in the lives of children. Hebrews 12 speaks of how discipline is actually a privilege of being a son. Don’t fear that your child will resent your discipline. On the contrary, they will soon realise that it is a sign of your love for them.
2. We never count to three.
The counting-to-three routine undermines your authority and places your child in the driving seat. You are training them that, essentially, obedience is a negotiation and they can determine the timing of their obedience. Train them to think, “I must obey straight away.”
3. We model it ourselves to authority figures in our lives.
Several times a year there is a clash between what my “boss” is asking me to do and what my family and I would like to do. I always seize these opportunities to explain to my children that I must obey my boss straight away and with a good attitude, and that although I would much rather spend Saturday morning with them, I must obey my “boss” and go to that meeting.
4. We try not to exasperate our children (Eph. 6:4).
Avoid petty rules. Pick your battles. Be merciful and compassionate. When you are in the wrong, say a sincere “sorry” to them. Also, make sure that you are giving them sufficient attention so that they are not compelled to rebel just to get some time and attention from you.
5. We use appropriate forms of punishment.
We discipline mostly for three D’s: disobedience, disrespect, and destruction (of property or your sister’s nose). Punishment must be proportional to the offense and also proportional to the child’s stage of life. If it is not then you will find that you exasperate a growing child. Also, the mode of punishment must be what will best help the child. Different parents have more “faith” in some forms of punishment than others, and different children respond differently to different forms of punishment. I acknowledge and respect that, although we have had continued success with the primary biblical form of disciplining children with a wooden spoon on their chubby bottoms.
6. We are convinced that it really is worth the effort.
The joy of parenting increases dramatically when you have obedient children, and most importantly, you are equipping your children with the vital life-skill of obedience, which will stand them in good stead in their obedience to God, life, at school, and in the workplace.
Mothering from a Biblical World-view
A friend posted this on Facebook, and I couldn't agree with it more.
It's from October 2010 @ Theresurgence.com (http://theresurgence.com/2010/10/22/missional-mothering)
Missional Mothering Young mother, it seems like everyone wants something from you. And you’re probably already giving way more than you ever thought you could give. But even with all your giving, you might struggle with guilt—lingering, joy-drenching, energy-sapping guilt—that you should be doing more, giving more, accomplishing more. Don’t waste that guilt. Pay attention to it. Use it. Take it out of the shadows and examine it in light of Scripture. Is this a godly grief that leads to repentance or a worldly grief that produces death (2 Cor. 7:10)? Is it life-giving or life-depleting? Ask yourself, does this bring fresh joy and peace to those nearest me, or does it add unnecessary stress and strain to my home? Mother: You have a mission field Our first and primary mission field is our children. God values our children. Jesus became indignant when the disciples didn’t embrace the worth of children in God’s expanding kingdom (Mark 10:13-16). God tells us that children are his blessing to us (Ps. 127:3). And he places great importance on our teaching our children to love and serve him (Deut. 6:7-9). Don’t feel guilty over making your children your primary ministry investment in their early years. Your availability, sensitivity, affection, and unhurried attention are irreplaceable. There are no neutral moments in a young child’s life. Someone is going to be influencing your children, inculcating values and imprinting standards on their impressionable young minds. Let it be you! Accept your calling from God to serve your family. As a mother, you are helping to shape the souls of your children for Christ and ultimately influence the world. Your children are your gift to the future. Stay on mission Does this mean you will never invest in others outside your family? Goodness, no. But if you are a young mother, stay on mission. Use your primary ministry of mothering to serve Christ now. Don’t let anything diminish your unique role as a wife and mother. It is not godly guilt that would call you away from a wholehearted investment in your little ones for his sake. “ Don’t feel guilty over making your children your primary ministry investment in their early years. ” This season in your life is just that—a season. And each season is a divine calling from our creator and king. Organizing a new event at church is important. Teaching your little boy to be kind to his sister is also important. But which one can best be done by you during this season? Serve God well by ministering to your children first. Very soon they will be grown and gone, and you will be unable to recapture the teachable moments you have now. Mothers, listen to Psalm 78:4-7: “We will . . . tell to the coming generation the glorious deeds of the Lord, and his might, and the wonders he has done . . . that the next generation might know . . . so that they should set their hope in God.”
